RIGHTS of ANYONE seeking mental health advice

Before I write anything further, I’d like to point you to this link:

https://www.cchr.org/about-us/mental-health-declaration-of-human-rights.html

This is a declaration of human rights for mental health advice seekers and patients.

Today, almost everyone (capable or incapable…. qualified or unqualified) is talking about mental health. Almost everyone has become a counsellor…. to his/her family… to their friends… and so on and so forth.

The internet is full of all kinds of advice….

Before anyone gives you any advice about your state of mind, you should ask them, “Are you a licensed practitioner? Are you aware of the rights of a patient or any fellow seeker? Do you have a degree in psychiatry?”

The declaration states that a patient or any individual has a right to refuse any advice or treatment that he/she feels inappropriate. It also lists a lot of other rights and is a must read for every patient, practitioner and anyone dealing with mental health.

Today, there is a growing awareness about mental health and almost every organization is running campaigns about mental health.

However, it’s important to understand that psychiatry is a science and just like there are good doctors and bad doctors, there are good psychiatrists and bad psychiatrists and psychologists.

In all cases, YOU have a CHOICE to accept or reject any treatment, therapy, counseling or advice being given to you.

A lot of times, patients with various conditions may feel a pressure to undergo treatment just because they have been deemed to do so.

However, it is important for everyone to realize that mental health patients are also human beings and they have certain human rights too.

There are certain treatments that can only be given by licensed practitioners who are qualified in their SCIENCE. And more than being a licensed practitioner…. YOU have a choice to CHOOSE your doctor and treatment.

Just like you change doctors…. because you don’t feel comfortable with them…. same way you can change psychologists or psychiatrists if you feel uncomfortable with them.

We need to understand that above everything else is FREE WILL.

All individuals have FREE WILL…. whether they are mental health patients or not.

This is generic information but is most important to be shared amongst everyone.

YOU HAVE A CHOICE…. to lead your life the way you want….

No one can force any treatment or medication on you without your consent.

If everyone understands and implements their FREE WILL “responsibly”….. That will be a true win of HEALTH I think.

Pressure

Go back in time and try to remember your childhood…. How was it? Did you have a lot of friends? …. Neighbors…. Kids living around your house whom you played with…. Kids at school… Kids who topped in class… Kids who were taller than you… or smarter than you…

Did you ever feel a pressure inside your heart… to be like them…. to be better than them??
Did you ever feel like someone was teasing you…. bullying you…. being mean to you….

Did it ever happen that you wanted to respond to them at that moment…. but you didn’t....
Something stopped you… from inside… like a fear or some kind of hesitation…

And then you carried it inside your heart for a long time… You thought about it…. a few times.. but couldn’t reply back… Because those kids were BIGGER THAN YOU… or BETTER THAN YOU… or just for no reason…. You just couldn’t say what you wanted to say.

Then you grew up… and in your teenage years… the same thing happened…. People around you were doing “COOL” things and you couldn’t cope up… There was something lacking in you… Maybe they had better friends….. boyfriends… girlfriends… and you were all alone…

You kept a lot of things inside your heart… Your feelings… your emotions… You even hid them from your parents and family members at times…

Sometimes you opened up to cousins or close friends but it was very rare… and many times… YOU WERE ALL ALONE…

You grew up and entered office… and now there was pressure to earn a living… PROVE YOURSELF… get a promotion… or a good end of year rating from your boss… Pressure to get ahead of those buddies whom you met in school…

You felt that pressure inside again…. you could not cope up at times… You looked back at what you had achieved so far and then thought…. I could have done better…

Then came family… kids…. and sometimes… maybe… you were all alone…

It just kept on building and building inside of you….

You thought …. I wish I could go back and relive my life… I wish I could live that part again…I wish I had said what I wanted to… I wish I could do it all over again….

PRESSURE…. PRESSURE…. PRESSURE… and you know where all that was building up……… INSIDE YOUR MIND….

You kept living for years and years and then one day…. maybe today…. imagine…. You have a realization….

“I am not going to let any more pressure build up in my mind.
I am going to speak up what I feel inside.
This is my opportunity. I will live only once and I will make the most out of it.”

And then suddenly…. YOU STARTED SPEAKING YOUR MIND OUT….. to your boss…. to your colleagues… to your kids… to your spouse…

You started saying that ….“I DO NOT LIKE THIS” OR ” THIS HURTS ME”.

Imagine you go to a dentist and the dentist does his/her job and you somehow felt uncomfortable. But NOW… you have your magic voice…. so you SPEAK UP…. and tell them that I DID NOT LIKE THIS….

It may seem hard in the beginning but as you practice it….. it becomes easy…. The pressure starts getting released….

And one day…. if you give yourself enough time…. the pressure is all released and gone!!

Wouldn’t you feel better now??

Life is not a pressure cooker or a race. Life is a gift. (Enjoy it!)

Don’t let the pressure build inside you…. SPEAK UP!! Truly…. honestly…. whatever you want to say….

Ease off your MIND….

The most VALUABLE GIFT when you received this life was not that car or that house… but your BODY AND YOUR MIND….!!! VALUE IT…. CHERISH IT….

SPEAK UP!!!

SPEAK ALL THAT’S INSIDE OF YOU…. NOW IS A GOOD TIME…. If not now… there will never be…

Make peace with your past… with all those buddies whom you are today jealous of…. or don’t like…. SPEAK IT OUT….

Don’t let the thoughts clutter your mind…. Speak up…. The time is RIGHT!!

If you learn to speak up… YOU WILL BE ABLE TO TEACH YOUR KIDS TO SPEAK UP TOO!!!… Who are going through the same phases that you went through…. Don’t let them hide anything from you…

Speak up…. and listen when they speak up!! Get healed and become a healer…. Believe in yourself.

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Job and Anxiety

A lot of people today are stressed due to their jobs… When they work with colleagues, they feel overwhelmed and exhausted…. There are times when they just feel that they can’t handle the pressure anymore…

There is pressure of earning money, running a family, expenses, kids, responsibilities and so on…

They feel like they have no time for themselves and they are just engrossed in a plethora of things to take care of….

It is important to realize during these CRUCIAL TIMES… that your LIFE matters much more than your JOB…

Jobs may come and go but you get life only once!! (There is no proof of multiple lives)

So….. Live….

Learn to live for yourself…. to keep your own self happy…. because if you don’t do that… You cannot keep anyone else happy.

Your vibrations pass to everyone else and they get a feel of what you’re going through internally…

Don’t stress about work… it will only make matters worse…

Don’t stress about money…. believe me…. everything will fall in place once you relax…

Some common habits of people when they are stressed are:

  • They eat too little or they eat too much.
  • They worry about things.
  • They get angry for no reason.
  • They feel life is complicated.
  • They feel relationships are tiring and demanding.
  • They feel like every day is a challenge.
  • They take pleasure in unhealthy food etc… and later feel guilty.
  • They try to socialize too little or too much.
  • They try to get the approval of others.
  • They are sometimes critical of other people’s feelings.
  • They don’t like their life and wish it was something different.

Life is a beautiful thing…. and you can make the best out of it when you take it calmly…. enjoy every experience…. enjoy every relationship and believe me… it is possible.

You just have to first learn to take care of yourself.

Be honest about your emotions and feelings. Speak to friends…. family members… colleagues…even counsellors

Speak about what you feel inside…. Deep inside your heart…

Open up to people!!

Take everything in your stride….! Even failures…. It’s ok…. you are not born to be perfect or lead a perfect life…

You are born to learn and be happy…. You are born to cherish this valuable life!

You are born to create beautiful relationships… full of love and hope…

You are born not to compete but to collaborate.

Don’t stress about work. It’s just a mechanism to keep society in order. But first of all, YOU need to get your life in order, before you can work and help others.

YOU need to know what you want to do in life and be happy doing it…

Find a passion and follow it…. Don’t worry about what others are doing…. It’s ok…. Everyone has their own journey….

Don’t stress about money… It is also just a means to keep society in order and be a medium of exchange.

Don’t overwhelm yourself with chores…. Just try to enjoy the little pleasures of life!

Don’t stress… please don’t …. because believe me…. IT SHOWS…. and everyone can feel it….

Don’t do anything for others…. Do what YOU like…. For yourself…. even if it is just doing it for free…

First start doing it for free…. Money will follow…. automatically…

Relax and enjoy life….! You’re a great person and you are blessed because you have this life…

Relax and now go and LIVE YOUR LIFE!!!

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A loaf of bread and Karma!

When a loaf of bread reaches your house, it has actually gone through a lot of processing. From the beginning till the end. Lots of people are involved in making bread available in your house and that includes the flour producer, the baker, the quality inspectors, transporters, retailers and maybe delivery guys and so on and so forth. And yes, In the end you pay money to get that loaf of bread. Money just gets the product from the end point to your hands but before that a lot of things have happened.

If you go to a grocery store with $1000 in your pocket but there is no supply of bread at the store, there is no way you can buy it. So it’s not just the money that is getting u the bread but the karma of all those people involved. In simple terms, if the supply chain breaks somewhere in the middle, you may not get the product that you need.

Every single thing in your house that you have or possess has gone through similar supply chains.

Each day when you wake up, pray to god that whatever karmas are bringing food on my table stay maintained. Whatever karmas are bringing clothes in my closet keep happening and whatever karmas are keeping a roof on top of my head stay intact.

Not just that, small things like medicines, grocery, school supplies, car utilities, curtains, mirrors….. Nothing absolutely nothing will come to your house if the supply chain of karma breaks….

The reason you have something is because someone, somewhere put in the efforts and created it in the first place. Then after that, people were kind enough to supply it to you in exchange for money.

Money is not just buying goods but paying off for the good karmas of people!!

So, next time u see a loaf of bread on your table…. Just think and imagine what all efforts might have taken for that loaf to reach you and how easily you were able to purchase it!!

Be thankful that our society is running on karma….

When people work hard, the society benefits. That’s the law of nature.

If people don’t work or become corrupt, the society suffers!!

Be honest, do good karma and make good things!! You never know whom all are your deeds serving indirectly or directly….

Keep the karma cycle going!! For the benefit of all.

Just one breath away….

As I write this post, I have Krishna bhajans playing in the background. For those who don’t know ….Krishna is a god per Indian mythology. I have always had a fondness for Krishna and his teachings (Bhagawad gita especially)…. But at the same time, I have fondness for all religions and cultures…. I know they all preach one thing….. “To be good”. That’s all.

Lately, I have been wondering how different we are… and you know what… we are all not that different… I mean there are people with different cultural backgrounds, financial backgrounds, races, color, creed and so on but you know…. We all are JUST one breath away from each other….!

The people who are richest in the world…. are richest only until their next breath. If the very next second, their breath goes away… forever… then …would you still call them the richest people on earth?

The greatest wealth that humans have is their breath….their life… not their money or stature or anything else in the world…

Because if you lose your next breath… you will lose everything…. and you won’t even realize it because you will be gone forever….

Be thankful for the next breath you take…. be thankful for being alive…!!

Do not compare yourself to others…. coz they are just one breath away from you… that’s it! Everything else will stay as it is…. We come empty handed and we will leave empty handed…

That’s why they say… the best moments in life are those….. that take your breath away! 🙂

Each time you breathe… Thank that invisible super power…. that gave you this life! …. which we call by various names in various cultures….

I read a quote recently that “Sometimes your hardest times seem to pass very smoothly…. as if some invisible hand is carrying you along …. That invisible hand…. that invisible power is God”….

So…. our every breath should be devoted to that super power…. and also devoted to the wellness of each and every single being on this planet…. whether it be a human being, a plant or an animal….

We all have ONE thing in common and that is LIFE!!! All the other differences are secondary…. they don’t mean anything….nothing at all…

You lose your breath the next minute and …. all the CRITERIAS you had created in your life for your success or wealth or fame or abundance…. are gone in a flash!!

Just one breath away…. just one breath away….

Love… live…smile… be happy…. as you breathe….!! It’s the biggest and greatest wealth you can accumulate in the next moment….!!

To err is human… to forgive is divine and “being human is to err”

Yes, I added that last part… “to be human is to err”…

In my last article I was talking about work and “being human at work”. That made me think, what is being human?? What do we mean by being human or humanity in general.

I think the most important thing to realize as humans is….. that we are not perfect and we make mistakes everyday, each moment of the day.

Take a small example, someone asks you “How are you?”… How many permutations/combinations can you think of in response to that question? You may say…

“I am fine” or “Why are u asking?” Or “ I am ok, just let me be” or “I am doing good, thanks!” Or “ It doesn’t matter how I am, you tell me how are you?”

Can you imagine that one simple question can have thousands of answers depending on our mood. Similarly, every situation in life has thousands of answers/ responses / choices.

We make choices every second, in what we talk, how we behave, how we act/react. But none of the ways is perfect or absolutely right.

What may seem perfect response to you… may seem inappropriate to someone else.

Life gives us choices every second. The main fact is that we have limited time, so we make only 1 choice per second and move on to the next thing. And the fact of the matter is, every choice is imperfect. TO ERR IS HUMAN!!

So, let’s give each other some room to make mistakes, let’s allow each other to make mistakes. Everytime someone says something, let’s accept it as his best mistake he could make in that moment and forgive him if we don’t like it.

We all are doing fine in life!! It’s ok…. live a moment and move on….There were million combinations/ways in which you could have lived your life but we are not going into the past now!!

We are just going to make new mistakes, better mistakes, better choices from NOW ON and more than that ACCEPT the fact that none of our choices are absolutely perfect and it’s ok….

Be human… be forgiving to yourself and to others…

Let things pass by if they are gone… Don’t get too angry at yourself for making mistakes because life is a learning experience and if we don’t err, we don’t learn. That’s why we are not perfect. And please don’t get too angry at children or elderly….

Next time, when your spouse says something or your child or even your boss…. Accept it as an imperfect version of themselves that they are best trying to put forward for u. (An imperfect “being human” thing) and it’s ok!!

Don’t try to change them or Mould them each time… Just accept them!!

This is the first rule to “Being human”…. Be willing to make mistakes and be willing to “Forgive”!!!

Let’s all be human… let’s all be ready to make mistakes and learn and more than that… be willing to accept and forgive!!

Work, money and “being human”!

We all work… well…we all have to work to earn money…. to buy us all the things we need to lead a good life! …. But there is one thing we all forget in the process… Something even more important than earning money…. something even more important than buying things and that is “Being human”. We all are aware of the political scenarios at work and how much we all have to struggle to get to where we want to be. We all have to prove our worth….. win trust…. build connections….and get work done.

Is getting work done the only thing in life?

Is the most successful person the one who has completed the maximum chores in his/her life?

Is the happiest person the one who has reached the top of the success ladder?

As we wade through the political storms at work, we have to appreciate, understand and respect the fact that we all are human. We all have our own challenges and struggles. We all have things to take care of and no one has everything.

So…. as you WORK your way up the success ladder… RESPECT your colleagues who are going through struggles in their life… RESPECT your colleagues who are on their own or don’t have any family members….RESPECT your colleagues who are specially abled…. or pregnant or….have some other kind of dependency besides work.

THERE IS SO MUCH THAT GOES INTO “BEING HUMAN”.

And the most important aspect is to respect that “OTHERS ARE ALSO HUMAN”…. they also make mistakes… they also have their struggles…. and some may not even realize what they are going through. They may be struggling inside and never be able to show it to others…

When I was 7 months pregnant…. I had stress at work (due to deliverables and colleagues etc etc)….because of which I had bleeding and some complications….

Thankfully everything got resolved and my baby came out healthy and absolutely fine…. I still wish my colleagues were more supportive at that time… I still wish maybe just maybe….. they were more human…. and understood my circumstances…. I just wish…. I wish I had not taken too much stress and just focused on my health…. I wish…. It was a big wake up call for me too … to focus on my child more than my work.

We are human beings first before money churning machines.

When MONEY didn’t exist…. there was the barter system. People exchanged goods for goods…. The same thing can happen now. We all can revert back to the old systems…. ONLY and ONLY IF we have bigger hearts.

We have to understand that at work, everyone is trying their best…. based on their circumstances.

And if there is ANYTHING MORE IMPORTANT than earning money….. IT IS BEING HUMAN. IT IS BEING a KIND PERSON, someone PEOPLE LOOK UP TO AND RESPECT. Someone people acknowledge as a “NICE” person!

When you work and earn money….. You earn the material things…. the richness, glory and fame.

When you work and also are NICE and earn money…. YOU WIN HEARTS!! YOU WIN TRUST and you win an urge to perform better.

It’s important to RE-ITERATE that…

When you work and earn money….. You earn the material things…. the richness, glory and fame.

When you work and also are NICE and earn money…. YOU WIN HEARTS!! YOU WIN TRUST and you win an urge to perform better.

Keep the political storms aside…. and just do me a favor… Just be a nice person….

As Michael Jackson’s song goes…”Heal the world…Make it a better place… for you and for me and for the entire human race!”….

Let’s keep work aside for a minute… and just focus on being HUMAN…. Rest everything will follow… Trust me….

Instead of praying… HELP!

Religion is always a complicated topic. There are thousands of cultures, thousands of traditions and each preaches its own things… I respect all religions and their practices but there is one thing I respect more that religion or prayers and that is KARMA

If 1000 people are sitting in a religious gathering and offering prayers…. Think of the IMPACT they can have if all of those 1000 people went and HELPED the people in need. (Through volunteering, donations or any other means that actually help others)

If I were to compare “someone offering prayers” to “someone feeding a hungry person or giving shelter to a homeless person”, I always feel the latter holds more importance.

Actually DOING something for the other person is better than just THINKING about it….

Adopting a child…feeding the hungry….giving shelter to the homeless… donating books at a library….donating clothes… Keeping your house clean and keeping only what you need… Constantly helping others in one way or the other… Educating an illiterate child… Not wasting food…Not complaining about life.. Not complaining about the past….Being humble…

Aren’t all of these KARMAS better than offering prayers?

Prayers hold their own importance and meaning but the greatest form of prayer is to HELP someone….

If you just look around, you will see so….. many people who need help. There are countless people who need your help and assistance. (COUNTLESS!!!)

Take out time from your busy schedule and instead of just offering prayers… Help those in need.

If you can’t physically help anyone… donate a small amount from your income monthly to an association that helps others….

If you have the ability to help others… please help them.

If you can’t do anything…. then just take care of your body. That is also a form of service you perform for your body and for others. (So they don’t need to serve you)

Water a plant…. sow some seeds…. Call someone and just say you were thinking about them and would be happy to help… Sometimes just offering a word of compassion helps…

And do pray when you can…. But think of karma…. before prayers….

It hurts to see so many people lonely and helpless…. especially young children and elderly who are the edges of life….

Children hold a very important place in my heart…. I always feel they are like pots of clay that you can give any shape to…. However you want to mould them….

Play with children…. they need a lot of play time and that is also a form of service that you can offer…

Listen to the elderly…. Just listen… dont ask… dont question… dont argue…. Just listen….

There is soooo much we all can do…. Imagine the energy that would be generated if 1000 people sitting in a religious gathering ….. all got up and started helping others… even each other….

Do you still think prayers are more important than karma? And I won’t question you if you do. It’s absolutely fine….

Everyone is right in their own way…!

HELP…. It’s such a powerful word… It can create miracles when offered to others…

HELP…. as much as you can… whenever you can….

HELP…. Help yourself and help others….

You will never regret helping someone…. Never ever… because it is the best form of KARMA….!

Chaos and Rebellion

When the mind gets chaotic, with so many thoughts about almost everything in the world, it creates stress and anxiety. You feel as if thoughts are travelling like trains in your mind, with so much noise, so much harshness and so much tumult…. You don’t know how to heal it….except just let it pass through your mind…. and wait for the right time to bring peace….

Mind is an extraordinary organ. It handles so much pressure at so many points in life…. At times… it feels it’s just going to burst apart!

There are thoughts about family members… about the world… about news… about disease… about chaotic situations and so on. You feel lost… you feel stagnated when life just throws you in a corner… with no where to go…. nothing to think….

Everything seems like a puzzle… too difficult to solve…. It feels like everyone is against you… and absolutely no one is with you…

You hear gongs of bells in your mind… You feel like you’re going to lose everything that you’ve gained so far… everything that you worked hard for… everything that you cherished…

And then if you’re lucky…. you pass through that tunnel of bad times and come out of it victorious…

Some people handle that chaos by themselves…. some seek professional help or counseling…. but everyone has to bear it…. at some point in their lives…

There are thoughts like…”Was this destined to happen this way…. or was it my karma?” Why am I suffering so much… what was my fault in all of this? Why me??

And then once time passes…. the healing process begins… the process of acceptance… the process of giving in…. the process of moving on…

Those bell gongs sound again and again and again… remembering that massive explosion of thoughts in your mind… but then you take a deep breath… rest your head against the wall while sitting and just …. AND let it all flow through you….

It is a test of time… a test of your strength…. a test of your character….

These tests may come over and over again in your life and you learn to live with them…

You learn to find some logic amongst the chaos…

You shout… you scream… you get angry…. and then you calm down…. you relax…. you are at ease…

You start believing once again in some super power that is leading this universe…. you learn to accept…

You let it go…. you let it flow… you just learn to LIVE through the STORMS…. And in the end you come out stronger…. more victorious…. You learn to live like a REBEL…