Can criticism ever be positive? Can it ever lead to something good?
Do you avoid criticizing others?
Can you take criticizing remarks made on you, in good spirits?
If you avoid criticizing others, or look over their mistakes, it may very well imply, that you expect others, to ignore your own mistakes and faults as well.
The reality is – Unfortunately, in this world, if people keep patting each other on the back without pushing each other to improve, they can not grow or do better.
“How to take criticism sportingly?” – This is one training, which probably every person should get during childhood itself.
It’s ok if some people do not like you or your work, it’s ok if they do not understand your efforts, it’s ok if they do not recognize you. You are what you are and you need to be happy about it. You need to be yourself!
If you do not like something, it’s ok to say it. Ofcourse, it is important to be polite towards others and show the minimal amount of courtesy in various situations. But, it is equally important to have an opinion – good or bad.
If something happens to you, try to categorize it as “towards your good” or “towards your bad”. It will help you judge people and situations better. It will also help you judge yourself better.
When someone says, “Hey, you didn’t do that right!”:
Step1. Understand that he is recognizing something bad in you or your work.
Step2. Accept that there is room for improvement.
Step3. Take a step back and do not take the comments personally. Disconnect ‘the comment’ from ‘the person’ who said it.
Step4. Analyze – can you improve the situation to avoid it in future?
Step5. If you can, then improve it, taking it as a lesson.
Step6. If you cannot improve it , take it as a lesson in understanding ‘the person’ who made the remark. Think, why that person is making such a remark and change your communication style to handle the situation.
There’s a lesson either ways. A lesson for you.
That’s what positive criticism is – a lesson for you to grow.
If you focus your energy on trying to change others, it may not be very productive. Change yourself.
Be like flowing water, that can fit into any vessel, any container ~~~~ of any shape. Hard or Soft. Symmetrical or Crooked. Water never loses its worth and internal properties.
There’s a famous proverb: The key to happiness is good health and bad memory. Forget the criticisms, but remember the lessons learned!
Criticism is good if it leads to constructive thoughts in your mind. If you welcome applause, you must welcome criticism with an open mind.
~ In all situations stay cool!
By the way, were you able to guess the tone in the title above? 🙂