This morning when I was working in the kitchen, I accidently struck my hand on a coffee mug and it fell to the ground and broke…. and then I realized… it’s so hard to fix broken things. Sometimes, no matter how much you try, even after mending it, you still see cracks.
Does that mean things should never be broken? Does that mean old things should live on forever….?
If they don’t break, how will new things be formed?
Old things have always been broken….. old ways of living, old civilizations…. old relationships… and then new things form…. new civilizations and new people…
When old habits break…. new habits are formed….
Some people say that it’s very hard to break old habits…. but I feel where there is a will, there is a way. If you set your mind to something…. and continuously try to improve upon it… you will succeed at breaking old habits and forming new ones…
When old things break or die…. we call it “death”… and then when new things are born…we call it “birth”… but isn’t everything running in a cycle….
Old things die… new things form…. old relationships die… new relationships are formed….
The death of one thing leads to the birth of another thing….
When my coffee mug broke this morning, it split up into 2 pieces…. the handle of the mug fell in one corner and the mug fell in another corner….
Just like one cell splits into multiple cells in our body… the death of one cell leads to the birth of multiple cells…
Death of an old object… leads to the birth of another object…
As soon as something is born, it is bound to die… Someday… that is INEVITABLE…
However…. no matter how much things break and reform…. there are just a few things…. very few things… that are in your hands and “Should not” be broken…
Certain special relationships… certain memorable things belonging to your children….
Certain friendships….Respect for parents and elders….
They should not be broken!
Just like there is a “Chakra” of breaking and reforming …. Similarly…. there might be a chakra of birth, death and rebirth…. Who knows? Who can tell? No one… Absolutely no one.
We can only say…. BE CAREFUL…. Avoid breaking things… Focus on “Mending, fixing, forgiving and creating….”
In the end, it’s not the people who “break” that are valued…. but it’s actually the people who “Mend” things…
If your ego ever comes in between a friendship or a relationship…. keep it aside and just try to heal things…
Let things go…. let things flow…
Don’t break…. and if it does… try to remake…. until possible.
I’ve heard that sometimes, if parents find out that there is some deformity in their to-be-born child, or some kind of malfunction in the body, they are given the choice to abort the child. (In certain countries)
Who gives them the right to take that child’s life away even before he/she’s born? Why can’t that child LIVE??
EVEN THOUGH HE/SHE HAS A PROBLEM…. EVEN IF THERE IS A DEFORMITY, HE/SHE STILL HAS A RIGHT TO LIVE.
You cannot snatch that right away from the child and take away all his other abilities…
Maybe that deformed child CAN really make a huge difference in the world…
Maybe that specially-abled kid has a lot to give to this world…
Maybe he/she has a very bright destiny…
WHO ARE YOU TO DECIDE TO TAKE AWAY HIS/HER LIFE??? ISN’T THAT A SIN??
Today, the world has developed so much that there is a lot of information available about birth control. If you CANNOT take care of a child, don’t produce one.
But IF YOU WANT TO HAVE A CHILD, be prepared to deal with all deformities… abnormalities… or any other malfunctions in his/her body. Be prepared to LOVE YOUR CHILD, inspite of any abnormalities.
DO NOT TAKE THE CHILD’s LIFE AWAY BEFORE HE/SHE IS BORN.
I understand that it’s a blessing to have a healthy child but it’s absolutely fine to have a specially abled child too….THERE IS NO CHILD IN THIS WORLD WHO DOESNT HAVE ANY HEALTH ISSUE….. Humans are MORTAL…. Everyone is bound to have issues and die one day…
LET LIFE FLOURISH…. inspite of any deformities…..
There are thousands of examples of how specially abled children have MADE a difference in this world…
Here’s an article about EXTRAORDINARY PERSONALITIES with disabilities:
Disability: Born with right hand only – Bharat Kumar was born with a right hand by birth, but his physical disability never dissuade him from pursuing his dreams. Born on Dec 10, 1989, Bharat Kumar, a world champion, has made Bharat (India) proud by winning over 50 medals in para- swimming contests.
Disability: Amputee – The renowned Indian classical dancer and TV actress Sudha Chandran met an accident, at the age of 17, when she was travelling from Mumbai to Chennai. In the tragedy, she lost her left leg that had to be amputated. But, the brave woman did not give up her indomitable spirit and continued to fulfill her dream and profession with the help of Jaipur foot.
Disability: Amputee – 27-year-old Arunima Sinha lost her left leg in an unfortunate incident on April 11, 2011. Achievement: Despite the fact that she lost a leg, she did not gave up the spirit of her life and defied all conceivable odds. Infact, Arunima decided to convert her weakness into her biggest strength and by her true determination, on May 21, 2013, she achieved the rare feat to become the first Indian amputee to conquer the Mount Everest, with the help of a prosthetic leg.
Disability: Became Quadriplegic at the age of 18 on 11th July, 1998.– Achievement: Preethi Srinivasan, who was the captain of the under-19 Tamil Nadu women’s cricket team during its only victory in a national tournament in 1997 and a champion in swimming, has defeated her disabilities with her strong will.
Disability: Lost one leg in a train accident, when he was just 2 years old. Achievement: Girish Sharma, a badminton champion, has proved that no matter whatever the circumstances are, you can still be a Champion in your preferred field in your life. The determined boy never let his disability to become an obstacle in achieving his goals. In an interview, Girish was quoted as saying, “When I was a child, I used to play Cricket, Football, Badminton with normal children of my age. My disability was nowhere near in my mind. I enjoyed those games as much as a normal person does.”
Disability: Suffers from rare motor neuron disease and speaks with the help of a voice synthesiser. When he was 21 years old, the doctors declared that he would not survive more than 2 or 3 years. He was born on January 8, 1942 and was diagnosed with Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis (ALS), also known as Lou Gehrig’s disease. In 2009, he lost his control over different parts of the body including arms, legs and voice and at the end of 2009, he totally became paralysed.Achievement: One of the most brilliant scientists alive, wheelchair-bound British theoretical physicist Stephen Hawking, attended Oxford University in England, as an undergraduate student. He received his Ph.D in 1966 from Cambridge University. By the time he was 35 years old, Hawking was Cambridge’s first Gravitational Physics professor and received the Lucasian Professor of Mathematics award. [Artificial intelligence could end humanity, warns Stephen Hawking] Stephen Hawking has also published a book called A Brief History of Time: From the Big Bang to Black Holes.
Disability: Born on March 14, 1879 and had a learning disability and did not speak until age 3. He had a very difficult time doing maths in school. It was also very hard for him to express himself through writing. Was severely dyslexic and autistic. Achievement: The great Albert Einstein fought his disability and entered into the world of theoretical physics where he changed the face of physics and science forever. His theory of relativity is said to be the most revolutionary theory of physics. He won a Nobel Prize for his photoelectric effect theory in 1921.
Disability: Dyslexic in his childhood and attended a special school. Achievement: Eventually, Abhishek overcame the disorder and went on to become a classic actor. His father and Bollywood legend Amitabh Bacchan too miraculously survived a fatal accident in 1982 on the sets of film “Coolie”, but, with his strong determination, he still rules the Indian film industry.
LET LIFE THRIVE ….. INSPITE OF ANY DISABILITIES OR DEFORMITIES….. EVERY LIFE IS A BLESSING…. NO MATTER HOW PERFECT OR HOW DEFORMED….
There are thousands of literatures about God, religion, mythology and so on. Each has its own beliefs, standards, philosophies etc. People follow all of these literatures and take their actions…. some visit temples, some visit other religious places and follow all kinds of rituals.
The works of God are unknown. That is why people say that the future is unknown.
However, there is a “Known God” too…. and I call that God, “Science”.
Science is based on FACTS – that something is bound to happen. There are formulaes and rules and algorithms, based on which things happen.
When we heat water – it boils. When water is frozen – it turns into ice. When something goes up – it comes down due to gravity. These are KNOWN RULES.
SCIENCE has saved the lives of millions of people.
Many surgeries that could not be accomplished in the earlier times, are now easily accomplished….and they save LIVES of people.
Many women earlier died due to pregnancy complications…. because scientific theories were not well developed at that time….. However, now, women and their infants can be saved because of science.
Isn’t SCIENCE like a “KNOWN GOD”? OR “KNOWN REGULATIONS” of nature.
Wouldn’t you trust science more than God?
Next time, when some one is ill and you feel like praying…. Do pray… but more than that…. SEEK MEDICAL ADVICE….
Next time, when someone is sick and you want to post it on social media…. remember that it would rather be better if you visit a doctor, rather than posting on social media.
If you really want to help the society, contribute to developments in science and technology…. Contribute to the scientific postulates and ideologies….
Take part in experiments… Believe in FACTS…
Next time, when someone gives you a religious belief, try to REASON it out too and find its scientific significance.
The struggle between SCIENCE and RELIGION has been going on for years, however, SCIENCE in proven.
Believe in science and encourage your future generations to also believe in science.
Every day when the sun rises, Mother Earth gets to work…. She utilizes the heat of the sun, water from the rain and produces food for all living beings… in the form of plants, shrubs, fruits, seeds, grains…. and so on…
NOT FOR A MINUTE does the EARTH rest….NOT EVEN FOR A MOMENT…It constantly churns and churns food for the ever growing population….
NOT ONCE does the EARTH complain…. It just keeps creating food…and life…
This FOOD is the source of energy…. the source of nourishment…. the source of seeds….
Just like a MOTHER... very lovingly produces food for her children…. In the same way… MOTHER EARTH produces food for everyone…The EARTH fulfills our basic needs of NUTRITION…Every day the ice caps melt to produce rivers and enough water for the living organisms…
This FOOD is the nourishment for LIFE…
We can live without every single thing on the planet…. but we cannot live without FOOD AND WATER…
When FOOD is the MOST ESSENTIAL thing we need in life…. WHY DOES EVERYONE BECOME GREEDY FOR MONEY??
Why can’t we understand that as long as we are getting nutritious food to eat…. All we should focus on is doing good work to help the society…. We should not have EVERGROWING WANTS, NEEDS and DESIRES…
Why is there so much focus on collecting and hoarding WEALTH when that is NOT a source of nourishment for us…. It neither satisfies our stomach nor our mental wellbeing….
We can feel the same happiness… the same sense of worth in a smaller house too…. We should RATHER focus on our HEALTH and WELLBEING…
When a pandemic like COVID hit the society…. People did not run behind NEW CARS, FASHION ACCESSORIES AND other superficial things… All they wanted was GRAINS IN THEIR HOUSE AND FOOD ON THE TABLE…
The WORST thing people do is HOARD food… and tell the society that there is shortage in supply…. They are taking away the most essential thing from people… It is worse than committing a crime…
DON’T BE GREEDY for money…. instead be GREEDY for good work….
When you do good work that helps everyone… you get rewarded automatically…. You get rewarded in the form of appreciation, in the form of acceptance and in the form of money.
Mostly, a certain amount of money is enough for us to live a good life… but we need to be rich in OUR THOUGHTS, ACTIONS and IN GIVING NUTRITION TO OUR BODY.
The earth is a magical ground where all things are created and life is born!
All the millions of creatures on the earth are given the power to sow seeds of life and create new life!
Everything begins with the seed…
God creates the seed but the “Power to sow, power to nurture and the power to kill” lies in the hands of living beings.
God is just creating the seed, which grows into a flower, then a fruit and then the seed again…
Some people say that God is giving birth and death but that’s not true…. Birth happens when a living being plants a seed in the earth and death happens when a living being out of his own will, or through an accident or due to health issues… gives up his/her life…
The world is based on free will…. and that is Karma…
God has given the choice of “Doing/Not doing” something to YOU…
YOU ARE THE OWNER OF YOUR LIFE AND DESTINY….
You will REAP whatever you SOW…. That is the law of KARMA…
There are points in your life when you just look back and wonder…. “What did I learn from all those years?”…. You look back at your childhood pictures…. pictures of your parents, brothers, sisters, family, friends and then wonder…. “I wish I could GO BACK…just one time”
No one can go back. That’s the rule of nature…
But think, when you were in those moments of your past…. Did you really appreciate them for what they were? (Playing with your friends…. swinging on the swing… Eating your favorite roadside snack!)….. Did u really appreciate them?
Do you now appreciate where you are, what you are doing….how far you have come…
Do you complain about life every now and then?
Is it too difficult to appreciate life? Is it too difficult to realize that every emotion, every moment, every little thing that you do or are able to do, is PRECIOUS and PRICELESS!!
No price tags can be attached to life or any moment of life!! It’s just too too too precious!! …. and it just slips from your hands while you are worrying or complaining or cribbing….
Appreciate everything….. EVERYTHING…. EVERY single emotion…. Every single feeling…. Every single thought….. Even if it is a thought of anger or jealousy or greed….
Appreciate the beautiful emotions like love, happiness, peace, joy, beauty, laughter….. But do not forget to appreciate the negative emotions as well….
They are just two sides of the same coin!! One cannot exist without the other…
Laughter has its meaning because there are tears…
Happiness has a meaning because there is sadness…
Kindness has a meaning because there is harshness…
Positives and negatives both are supposed to exist…. Because this variation…. from positive to negative and then to positive again is LIFE!!!
U have to appreciate both sides of the spectrum…. Because this spectrum of emotions is what makes life!!
IMMENSE Appreciation for life means you appreciate the entire spectrum…. all the colors… all the phases….. everything positive and negative about life!!! You don’t dislike any emotion. You accept and appreciate everything!!!! THE ENTIRE LIFE!!!!! – with all its shades….. rainbow, black, gray and white!!
Imagine if trees didn’t have roots…. if trees could just freely move from one place to another…. all the plants, shrubs, trees…. they all could travel and move along where ever they wanted…. Wouldn’t it be chaotic? Then we would need traffic rules for trees too… Procedures on when trees can cross roads…. when they can travel abroad…. visas for trees and so on…
But the reality is that trees stay connected to their roots…. they eat their food and water from the earth… do photosynthesis…. give out oxygen and finally die at the same place….
Trees don’t have unlimited wants and desires like traveling to Australia and London and all the other places….
Trees are happy staying connected to their roots, doing their work, making food, giving out shade and oxygen and finally dying….
Man on the other hand is doing just the opposite… Man travels… becomes greedy for things…. wants more and gives less and …. IS LOSING CONNECTION to their ROOTS…
Our roots are:
Respect for each other and humanity
Love for family members and friends
Peace in the society
Appreciation for what we already have
Thankfulness towards God!
Can we not stay connected to our roots? Can we be a little less greedy? Can we try to take less and give more…. Can we do service more than serving ourselves…?
The more we stay connected to our roots…. the less we NEED from the world….!! Less we get worried about and more peaceful we become!
Tell your kids to stay connected to the human roots of love, honesty, sacrifice, patience, satisfaction and thankfulness! Then they will need less from the outside world…!! They will crave less and worry less….
Teach them to ASK before they hug a friend…. by just saying… “Can I hug you?”
Teach a boy to ask a girl before he holds her hand…”Can I hold your hand?”
Teach a girl to take consent too before she approaches a boy she likes.
CONSENT… such a small word but it holds such a deep meaning….
It means the other person is allowing you to do something with his permission and with due respect.
It means you are not doing anything to hurt the other person unintentionally but ASKING them first.
It means they respect your body, your emotions and your feelings.
How would you feel if someone just pounces on you and gives you a hug?? Wouldn’t you feel better if they seek permission and ASK you first. Wouldn’t that be a more comfortable emotion?
Many times we assume that just because he/she is my friend, I can hug him… or do anything…. Who said that is right and who gave you the right??
Human body seeks RESPECT. Just like you wouldn’t like if someone hurts your feelings or your mind…. same way you should not hurt anyone’s feelings or mind.
CONSENT means the person is mentally ready for what you have asked them to do.
Most forms of harassment or assault come when there is “lack of consent.”… When someone is forcing their wants, their desires or their physical presence on someone else….
CONSENT between all parties means they have agreed to do something willingly and there will be no second thoughts or guilt about it.
CONSENT is a BIG POWER and everyone SHOULD ASK for consent before approaching anyone…. especially when it’s something related to their body.
A lot of friends….even kids… touch each other’s hair…. each other’s faces …. without ASKING for CONSENT…. This later makes them feel ashamed or harassed….
TO ASK… is a form of RESPECT…. IT MEANS YOU ARE EVEN READY TO HEAR “NO” and will not MIND/DISREGARD A PERSON just because they said NO.
When we used to watch the religious indian TV serial… “Ramayana”… there was a sentence that was used in it a lot of times…. students often said to their teachers and parents before leaving somewhere… It was…“Aagya deejiye..” which meant…”Please give me permission to go”. It was a sacred form of respect.
This form of permission should be taught by parents to kids….right from childhood so that when they grow up… they learn to SEEK permission from their friends, their boyfriends/girlfriends and also their spouses.
It’s good to ASK… It’s RESPECTFUL to ask… IT HELPS TO ASK…. AND IT’s THOUGHFUL TO SEEK CONSENT….
Don’t differentiate between relationships between kids or adults… Human body must be respected in all forms…. IN ALL RELATIONSHIPS….
THAT IS THE ONLY WAY WE CAN PROTECT OUR KIDS…. IF WE TEACH THEM TO TAKE AND GIVE CONSENT….. Only and only this can stop all forms of Physical and mental abuse.