“Unconditional love is very easy ~ When we believe that, the other person is not responsible for our state of mind ~ When we take responsibility for our own emotions and feelings ~ when we trust completely, forgive naturally and accept willingly. A soul at its core is full of love. It does not have any negative emotions like jealousy, hatred or fear.’
Communication – A crucial element for sharing information and expressing our feelings.
As I start this article, I don’t want it to get lost in the millions of communication related articles published on the web. I just want to get my ideas straight to you all.
When I communicate with someone, I hope for a connection, an understanding, a faith – some kind of benefit through information sharing. I hope that two people will grow intellectually or spiritually when they are communicating.
However, a lot of times, I have run into conversations that have no valuable purpose or meaning. In those weird conversations, all people try to do is impress each other or play power games.
When I was a kid, I used to impress my elders, teachers, fellow classmates. But, not anymore. It’s doesn’t matter as much. I am a more defined person now. All I know is, if someone is happy with the way I am, they will be happy anyway.
We have thousands of ways to communicate these days – email, phone, social networks and so on. But, how much valuable information do we really share? Are we trying to make sense through our words or just saying things to pass our time because we have nothing better to do.
I am a very straightforward person especially when it comes to work. I like to base my work decisions based on facts. Of course a lot of times, facts are not available and then the best judgement call needs to be taken.
I am amazed at how much time people spend just trying to win battles. If everything is based on facts, how can there be any room for doubt while communicating. Doubts arise when people do not share information or hide information intentionally.
“Oh! I was planning to do it yesterday but I didn’t get to it.” “I believe that is the right answer” “I think we can do that but I am not 100% certain”
Replace the above sentences by:
“I did not complete it yet.” “It seems like the right answer but I need more time/information to confirm” “Let’s try that. Else, we can think of plan B”
We waste each other’s time by discussing vague scenarios, providing unclear answers, faking relationships, offering unwanted explanations, blaming things on each other and so on.
We are not perfect but we don’t need to be perfect. That’s not what was expected out of us when we were put on this earth.
We are fine just the way we are, as long as we say the truth. TRUTH – I wish this word had more value in today’s world. It’s getting lost amongst the new words, acronyms and definitions that today’s smart generation has created.
TRUTH hurts – but not as much as faking things or lying.
When I talk to someone, I feel I am taking away, some time from their life. Everyone has limited time. So, I have to either make the person feel better intellectually or spiritually. That’s my goal.
I don’t have to please them, but I have to empower them to please their own selves. For their own good.
I wish everyone in this world did something that made a difference – Wrote a book, discovered or invented something, left a mark in this world through his talent and skills. Everyone has some.
It all starts by communicating the right words at the right time for the right purpose. That’s the first skill a little baby learns. And when we die, it’s only our words and deeds that are remembered.
In order to give out love, you need to fill your own self with love.
How do we fill ourselves with love? – By not having negative feelings about anything or anyone.
Is it that simple? – Yes, it is
Just like we need food and water to replenish our energy, we need good positive thoughts to replenish our heart and mind. We need to feel good about ourselves in order to make others feel good about themselves.
Filling ourselves with love requires courage – courage to ignore the things which do not hold any value in our life.
If you go to a party and someone comments about the way you look, the way you talk etc etc, it is up to you to take that negatively or neutrally.
It’s important to stay neutral and keep looking forward, in spite of any tough circumstances.
Filling yourself with love requires forgiveness, hope and dreams. In order to do this, you have to find simple pleasures of life and live them happily.
Everytime something disturbs you or makes you weak, it is important to take responsibility for that emotion and replace it with love.
Too much self love is also not good. If you are full of love, you need to share it with other people.
Give them compliments, help them in their chores, guide them to succeed, forgive them no matter what, accept them the way they are, be patient with them, try to read their emotions and minds, communicate with them, be open, wish well for everyone even if they are not good to you – Be thankful for being alive and make them feel happy to be alive.
Replenishment is the essence of love. Love likes to flow. It does not like to stay in one place and become stagnant. Its like water – pure, transparent, fluid.
Fill yourself with love each moment by doing what you like, doing what makes you love life – And encourage others to do what they are good at.
At least one weekend out of a few weekends, take a good break and pamper yourself. Just seclude yourself from the rest of the world and take care of your body and your thoughts.
Your body serves you throughout your life. How much time do you spend giving it the essential nutrients? When did you last sit next to a pool with a book in your hand or took a bubble bath? When did you lie down on a beach? When did you last look at the stars?
Once we develop a good relationship with ourselves and our mind, it responds to us better. If our body is happy and relaxed, we can feel our blood circulation. Every heart beat is more resonant and rhythmic. We understand our feelings and emotions better. We feel happy that we are alive.
Everyone needs such weekends to relax, calm down and live each breath.
No matter how wealthy you may be, if your mind and body are not happy, you are unhealthy!
I believe that once you have a stable job and are content with your career, it’s important to also focus on your health. The meaning, value, level and definition of contentment varies for different people but it is essential to be content at some point in life.
Because if you are not content… you will always be running behind something….and you will never get a chance to relish what you already have.
Pampering yourself is being content with yourself for that moment and being thankful for this life.
I read that when ever you are angry or upset, close your eyes and imagine still water… calm, clear and peaceful. Imagine that you’re sitting next to a lake and try to live that dream in your mind.
Life is too short and before you realize its worth… it just moves on…
Take out time…pamper yourself……love yourself….. You’re truly worth it!