Life changes so very quickly. It does not give us enough time to think and plan the next step. People leave….plans change….priorities change….
All the people whom I knew in school are only profile images to me on social channels now. I don’t know much about them. All the people whom I met in college have moved on in life to new professions, new spheres of learning, new phases of life.
When I look back ….I wonder, what did I learn from all the people who shared some moments of life with me. What were the lessons life taught me when they were around?
Some people have large social circles and channels. I wonder if they ever spend time analyzing or imagining what purpose the other people played in their lives? Do they even have time to do that?
There are no rules in life. If you want to spend your entire life meditating, you can. If you want to spend your entire life dreaming, you can. If you want to spend your entire life socializing, you can. If you want to spend your entire life studying, you can.
It’s what you want to do and not what others want you to do. Many of us change our priorities based on what others expect from us and in the end, all those people don’t even matter to us. Only a handful matter in life.
I changed myself for a lot of people. I changed my rules for a lot of people…..people who don’t even matter anymore.
People who know what they are doing, why they are doing what they are doing and where are they heading are most successful. But again, there are no defined rules for success.
If you think being healthy is success, you can be healthy. If you think being rich is success, you can be rich. If you think having fun is success, you can have fun. If you think, being famous is success, you can be famous.
So, the conclusion – we have no rules to life and no rules to success. Are there any rules at all then?
If you want to be rude, you can be rude. If you want to be polite, you can be polite.
You define the rules, you follow the rules and you bear the consequences.
Do you define your own life rules? Do you think you need any rules at all?
For Once, I want to live for myself…. For Once, I don’t want to answer anyone…. For Once, don’t expect anything from me…. For Once, let me… bask in the sun… For Once, I don’t want any deadlines… For Once, let me be …just on my own… For Once, don’t give me any new tasks… For Once, let me be… all… alone… For Once, I want to ‘do what I want’…. For Once, I want to take control… I want to just set myself free… I want ‘to be’, what ‘I think’ is my goal… I don’t want money, I don’t want fame… But all I need is, some freedom to choose… For once, I want to believe ‘all’ that can be… For once, let me imagine, there is nothing to lose…..!
It’s amazing how life keeps getting busier day by day. We no longer have time to pursue our hobbies, meet our friends, bask in the sun, listen to the twittering of the birds, watch the sunset, feel the breeze….or just relax…!
Who’s responsible for making our life busier? Why can’t we take out time like we used to? Where are those days gone? Are we overburdened with responsibilities and to do lists?
Right since the time, a child is born, he gets busy doing something or the other.
As per the Bhagavad Gita, (a hindu scripture), there is not even one moment when a living being can stay idle – even breathing is a form of work.~~ ‘Being’ is work.
I watch ~ as life gets busy and people get busier. I play some relaxing music on the internet – nature’s sounds – because I don’t have time to hear the real sounds. I am too busy for that.
I think about what I am missing, how can I get it back, but it’s too far in the clouds – the moments with my family when I was a child, the fun and laughter of childhood, going to school – attendance register, lunch breaks, classrooms, college….it’s all gone! ~ Forever….
Even now, friends keep coming and going in my life. Thankfully, I have a life partner who shares the joys and sorrows with me.
Social life is not very social these days. I hear about happy hours a lot.~ I don’t drink, so I don’t really know how happy those hours are!?! 🙂 I once went out with some friends. who asked me why I don’t drink ~ I said, “I am always high on life anyway, so I don’t need drinks” 😉
I realize ~ I am being forced to become more and more practical with everyday realities of life. I can not entertain guests all the time. I can not find time for friends because I have my own chores to take care of. I am busy.
I don’t want to get so busy and the only way I can feel less busy is~ if I do what I love. So…. “I write”. ~ It makes me talk through my thoughts and I feel relaxed. I feel I have met a friend, to whom I narrated my story. A virtual friend.
When you feel really really busy, with no time to meet anyone at all, “do what you love”. It will make you feel good. It will make you feel alive. (for some brief moments at least)
Try to feel blessed. (amidst the confusions, office work, politics, social responsibilities, family chores, work pressures and everything else…..)
Feel alive by doing what you love. Life will always get busier. Get busy doing what makes you feel ALIVE.
Believe me, God likes Comedy! How can God not like comedy? He would just stress a lot, if he only handled the complaints and unending requests of other people!!
God likes to add a little bit of comedy, excitement, fun and mystery to our lives. That is why, when you take a route thinking that, there will be less traffic, you find more traffic instead.
When you prepare for an exam and are 100% sure of doing well in it, suddenly you hear there might be a retest, due to some funny reason.
When you are sure you will land a particular job, suddenly you get an interview call from a better company.
Isn’t all this funny? Destiny wants us to have fun and not take life so seriously.
So what – if things don’t go our way, it does not mean there is no other better way.
God wants to have fun with us, and teach us in the process. He is too smart to deal with! He is all-knowing and omnipresent. How can someone run away from him?
Life is full of comical people, stories, instances and co-incidences.
For a very long time, I took life very seriously. Everything I did, had to be as per the ‘rules’. Slowly, I started having fun. And now, in my work life and personal life, I try not to get attached to successes or failures. I just try to work hard each day.
I follow my passion. If someone laughs at me or hurts me, I feel God is laughing at me and there is definitely some lesson behind it. I can improve.
Life is a lot of fun, if you live one moment at a time. Imagine that all people around you are movie characters. Observe how their stories are unfolding.
Look at the expressions of people travelling on the metro. Smile. Smile – more often.
Thank God for everything. Relate with his comical side and be strong to bear everything. Life is not forever but it’s all worth it! Life is fun and God is a true friend who pulls your leg every now and then! 🙂
All people in the world,no matter what country, faith or religion they belong to, have the same ways of expression. When they are happy- they smile, when they are sad – they cry, when they are nervous – they shiver and when they are complaining– they groan.
Every individual has the same feelings for his or her children. Most of them try to work hard, one way or the other to earn money and fulfill the needs of their family.
They may go through the same hardships, the same struggles and the same health issues in their lives.
If two people from different countries – who speak different languages, are left alone on a deserted island, ultimately- they will find some way to communicate, because having a company is always better than being all alone. They may become the best of friends or the worst of enemies but, there will be some communication and exchange of ideas.
In spite of so many similarities and so many dependencies amongst each other, people still fight, argue, and indulge in merciless killing and atrocious acts.
The people of the world need a way to deal with their emotions. The problem is not about communication or speaking a common language, it’s about having common thoughts. – It’s about understanding the ‘silent expressions and emotions’ peacefully.
In order to move constructively to the next level, the world needs peace. Every person has to be peaceful within his own self. There has to be a level of satisfaction with what he has, what he owns and what he earns.
Before having any expectations from anyone else or even from people of another country, they need to look at their own problems and deal with them.
This world is beautiful and it needs beautiful emotions. If a woman adopts a kid, not from her own origin, she will still be his mother. If a child is taught to beat other kids, he may even beat his own family members one day.
It’s all about values – Integrity, Peace, Love and Cooperation.
Everyone has to die and that moment has been decided by God. Why do people try to control God’s ways and want to become God themselves?
And for people who are Atheists, can hurting someone else make them stronger? Will they be able to compare their strength with every single person in the world in their limited lifetimes? Who are they trying to fight?
Today, with globalization and modernization, the world can gain a broader perspective about human emotions. This can help generate positivism and self worth among all human beings. Every person can contribute towards a better world, a better life. It is possible for 10 friends from 10 different countries to travel together on a vacation. It is possible for them to relate, talk, learn and grow. The world needs to be united. Not for one person or one country but for humanity.
I read a quote today. Its image is posted below. It was tagged under ‘love quotes’, however I think its applicable to our entire life.
After reading it, I immediately thought, am I getting late at doing certain things? I also remembered one of my old posts, ‘Don’t procrastinate, Contemplate’.
I recalled the folders I have created on my computer. I have four folders on my desktop titled Dream 1, Dream 2, Dream 3 and Dream 4. As I work on my dreams or collect the relevant material/information to make them come true, I place it in those folders.
One of those dreams has already come true! 🙂 The rest of them are a little tough, so I’m working on them. 😉
I know I keep repeating that, we need to enjoy every moment of life and make the most of it.
I am trying to approach the problem from a different angle today – From the eyes of people who say that their life is almost over and they have played their innings.
We all know that we have limited amount of time on this earth. We(including me!) still waste our time doing things which will hold no value for us ever.
Some of my relatives, friends, family – who are old now – say that their life is almost over. Itmakes me very sad, firstly because it makes me emotional and secondly because it makes me feel life is so transient. It’s a phase.
There is no guarantee about how long one is going to live and there is no point fearing it also. You fear the unknown but the fact that ‘life ends’ is known to everyone.
Knowing that life is precious encourages me to work harder on my dreams.
As long as you are alive, It’s never too late to work on your dreams and inspire others to work on theirs. Begin now.
Life is a journey. When you travel from one place to another, do you remember the ‘start and end points’ OR ‘the things in between’?
Sometimes we even forget, how ‘it’ started or when ‘it’ ended…. All we remember is… It happened sometime and we had fun! We remember the beautiful moments in between.
When one journey ends, another one begins that very moment. It is important to value each journey and understand that journeys are fun when they are full of surprises! (Some good and some not so good)
Journeys have the power to create memories. Journeys teach us a lot of things.
It is important to enjoy each journey and it is also important to disconnect from it and connect to a new one, when the time comes.
We may remember the people we meet during these journeys. Many of them could be strangers, some of them friends and some of them acquaintances.
The lady in the cafetaria, the librarian, the store keeper, the teacher, the student… these may be our co-travellers in the journey.
We don’t even know for how long, we will know them or stay in touch with them. However, we can remain in their memories since we share the same journey. These memories stay alive even when the journey is over.
Down the line, they may think about us and say, “Oh! I have met him/her before! and he was…….(cute/funny/sad/happy/angry/furious/nice…)”
We are not related to all the people we meet, but we do travel together for a period of time.
I read somewhere that “We are all traveling towards the future at the rate of 60 minutes per hour!” and we all need to make the most of every minute.
It is important to mark each journey with smiles, laughter, fun, joy and giggles. These emotions shall later transform into memories and stay with our co-travellers! That’s how they may remember us and we may remember them.
Are you ready for your next journey? How are you planning to enjoy with your co-travellers? Are you ready to create happy memories?
When one journey ends, another begins. That’s life.
Every time you try to be someone you’re not…even if you enjoy it for sometime… later you’ll want to come back to your own self… ‘YOU’.
I don’t know if we all have a purpose to fulfill or we are here just to enjoy life… but there is one thing which is definitely true….
Every person is unique in some way! Even identical twins are not mentally alike!
Don’t you think, it is important to retain our identity throughout our life? Do you think your principles are strong enough to not deter you? Are you happy being yourself? If not, why?
If god was happy creating you the way you are and put you on this earth, just the way you are…. why aren’t you happy with what you are? Aren’t you in agreement with God?
We all waver and try different different paths of life…different ways of living…different personalities, different ideas…but imagine, if God were to discover you, wouldn’t he be able to? He can probably easily identify you from a crowd… he can probably identify every individual on this earth. (At least it’s my belief!) 😉
What’s so special in you that God can identify you among millions of people? What is it that you have which others don’t? If you see yourself through the eyes of God (!!), you can identify yourself!
Make a list of what you like, what you do, what you are comfortable with, what gives you peace, what energizes you, what makes you smile, what makes you believe in God. What do you like to do repeatedly to keep yourself content and in sync with god?
Again, make a list of things you do not like, which dampen your spirits, which take you far away from peace….and …don’t do those things! You don’t have to. You are not answerable to anyone except yourself.
Stick to your beliefs. Stick to being yourself. That’s the greatest possession you have throughout this journey!
You don’t have to ‘fit into’ this world or a particular society. You are an integral part of this world.
Keep rediscovering yourself, until you discover yourself completely and then polish that soul… that ‘You’ in you.
Do not get lost …Do not get influenced….Do not try to impress others… Do not be scared to fail…. If you fail by just ‘being yourself’, it’s fine…because at least you did not lose yourself in the process!
I am happy being myself because that’s what makes me comfortable! I am rediscovering myself to make my beliefs stronger.
There are too many illusions in life, the ‘make-believe’ things which make you feel good only for a few moments. And…then you later regret the moments when ‘you weren’t you’.
Find yourself, that’s the only possession we were born with and the only possession we have until we die.