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Faces in the morning…..

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When I go to work in the morning, I observe the people around me – some on the streets, some in their cars, some crossing the road.

 Invariably, I see sad/gloomy expressions on their faces. It is extremely depressing.

 I understand that everyone has stress, everyone has things to worry about, responsibilities to take care of, chores to complete but that doesn’t mean people become gloomy right in the morning.

I believe in the concept of ‘A happy morning’ – something that brightens your day – and infuses more energy in you for the rest of the day.
I believe you have the world to conquer only if you believe so.

So what,if your boss does not understand you, so what if your kids are moving out of the house, so what if you did not meet the deadline yesterday – Can you gather the strength to start the morning afresh – by believing in yourself and your abilities?

Can you do this not just for yourself but for everyone around you? So that you pass on good vibes.

There was only one guy I saw on the road this morning who was biking to office and smiling. I felt good.

Some positive things you can do in the morning include: 

  • Listen to music/not news.
  • Have a good breakfast – “no matter what.”
  • Read something positive – a quote – a story – a comic strip.
  • Look at the sunrise and believe in the new day.
  • Bike to work.
  • Don’t think about work right in the morning. You are anyways going to do it soon.
  • Think about something good you did the previous day.
  • Acknowledge one strength you have.
  • ****Think of something creative you are going to do today. (Outside of your work)****
  • Carry a smile.

Happiness and sadness are part of life. However, every morning, we have the opportunity to choose one of the two – it depends on you.

Choose happiness and peace. Spread it right in the morning. The world needs it. A lot. Gather the strength to start afresh – each day, everyday.

How I said it… How you heard it! :)

When ever we say something, there is usually some emotion associated with it.
For example – our statements could be happy, sad, full of excitement, resentment or fear.
Our words could be mischievous, loving, harsh, rude, gentle, informative or blunt.
We could make a point directly or indirectly.

And at times, we may talk by remaining silent! 🙂

In order for our message to not get garbled or misunderstood, it is important for the other person to understand the emotion behind the dialogue also.

When we meet new people, we take time to understand their ways of talking, expressing, appreciating, denying or arguing. If we are able to build bridges and not walls, we become friends! However, if the message is interpreted in a wrong way, a lot of time and effort goes into correcting it.

The lower our ego levels are and the more accepting we are of any situation, the easier it is to understand other people.

Once, you understand what they are saying and why they are saying it – what is the motto behind the conversation – things become clearer.

Let’s take an example. There are two people who are very hardworking. They are working on the same project and want it to be successful. Every time they talk about a process improvement on the project, there can be agreement or discord. However, as long as the purpose is clear, they can reach a conclusion. They can brainstorm ideas and discuss the pros and cons.
Once the ego barrier is broken, the purpose is clear in the minds of all people and things move further.

Incomplete or Unending Conversations exist, when there is no conclusion and no radical decision can be reached ‘together’ by all counterparts.

There are hundreds of books written on communicating effectively. And, all of them have many things in common. If it’s important for a speaker to share his thought with the exact emotion, it is also the job of the listener to interpret it with the same exact emotion.

Communication is a two way street and if it’s purposeful, it can get a lot of work done magically!

There is a famous hindi quote by a very famous writer, Kabir: (English translation follows!)

ऐसी वाणी बोलिए, मन का आपा खोय |
औरन को शीतल करे, आपहु शीतल होय ||
Speak in words so sweet, that fill the heart with joy
Like a cool breeze in summer, for others and self to enjoy.
 
You may now think, “How I said it and how you heard it!” 🙂 .. Have fun! 😉